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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My friend approached me about watching her infant son PT. Our babies were weeks apart and I’m staying home. We are neighbors and she needed 20-25 hours/week. I know she was having trouble finding a PT nanny, and didn’t want to put him in daycare. I felt like it was a good idea. I liked that my baby had a playmate. I’ve been doing it for 3 months now and it’s just not working out.

We have very different parental philosophies, which I think is one of the biggest issues. She is very attachment style parenting and I’m not. Her baby needs to be held for all naps. This has started to become a problem for me because I feel like I have no break and can’t get anything done. He is overall an easy baby, but he doesn’t have any defined schedule. The other issue is that he has become bored and wants new toys, but my friend says that all of these toys are “ too stimulating for him” and not to use them. Her baby sometimes takes hours to go to bed or wakes up several times a night, and she has complained about it. I’m the complete opposite. I’m very schedule oriented and have my son on a flexible schedule. We sleep trained at 4 months and he takes reliable naps in the crib.

I feel like I have no break and can’t get anything done. I respect that we both follow parental philosophies that work for our families, but it’s just no longer working for me watching him. I told her that I don’t think I can watch him, and she proposed I do it until they put him in daycare or find a nanny. That’s another 2-3 months away. I feel bad and I’m worried about losing the friendship over it. Do you think I should stick it out or stand my ground? 
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