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[quote=Anonymous]OP- I was in this exact situation. I agreed to watch a friend's baby (same age as my baby) for 15 hours per week. They paid me but we settled on a pretty low hourly rate because I felt funny about the money, knowing that their finances were tight. I also took the attitude that if I am already structuring my day around my baby, it is really not very inconvenient to have her baby there.

Her baby ended up just having a significantly different temperament than mine.  She wanted to be held constantly. Cried way more often. Was fearful of other adults so I couldn't go on walks with other friends or invite people over. She didn't like things like going to the library or music classes either. In short, it really cramped my style and I started to feel resentful of her. It wasn't worth the little bit of money I was making and it was really taking away from my time with my own daughter.

I ended up just leveling with my friend and saying that I thought it was a great idea, but it just isn't working. I said I would be happy to keep doing it until they found an alternative, which they did  within about a month.

We are still great friends to this day and our girls love to play together. I think it is ok to just be honest and blame it on yourself- "I was excited to do this arrangement but it isn't working for me.". No need to over explain. [/quote]

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