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[quote=Anonymous]I'm more quantitative and probably academically strong than my spouse, but he is infinitely better with people, more diplomatic, and better at negotiating, business relationships, etc. He's not dumb by any measure, and I wouldn't have married someone who was. He's also a great writer and can craft a narrative better than I can.

It isn't an issue in our relationship at all, we rely on each other when dealing with something that is not within our own strengths, and enjoy learning from each other. I think the key is that neither of us would ever make the other feel bad about being less-than on any given metric, because we know we both have strengths and weaknesses and we aren't jerks about it. I often review financials and reports for DH, he helps me draft important texts/emails/etc. and always coaches me when I have important meetings or difficult social situations.

If you think you are "smarter than" your spouse, I would ask yourself what you're really saying, what he brings to the table/strengths, and how this framing is negatively impacting your subconscious (or conscious) interactions with your partner. It doesn't sound healthy.[/quote]

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