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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]I’m not totally clear on the dynamic. Maybe it’s subtle and hard to describe? Or maybe I’m just not getting it.[/b]

Why is DH taking credit for things causing all of this tension with your child? I don’t understand how that pushes you out; is he trash-talking you to your child?[/quote]

This is not OP, but here's the vibe I am getting based on my own experiences: I once planned a very cool work event. I even gave it a nickname based on the guest of honor - it was a funny nickname, everyone loved it, and referred to the event by that name from then on. But there was one guy I worked with that started taking credit for it. It was weird and subtle. It also annoyed the crap out of me. But how freaking dumb and un-fun would I look by saying, "You know, Larlo didn't come up with the nickname, I DID."

Now imagine that happening at every kids' birthday, holiday, etc. and when you tell your spouse in private that your feelings were hurt because you were actually the one that arranged the cake, balloons, venue, and everything else your spouse doesn't apologize but denies and deflects.

OP, I'd move towards divorce. This lifestyle sounds like an exhausting beatdown. I could not do it. My own husband likes to "hold court," which is annoying enough, but I can grin and bear it because other people like it. If he tried to downplay they fact that I do and plan EVERYTHING for the family or tried to take credit I would be gone, baby gone.[/quote]

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