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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]Reminds me a little bit of some folks I know who are "toppers," in that they always have done everything better or more interesting than everyone else in the group. [/b]Those people are super exhausting, but always shut up once you call them out on it.

Not sure how the dynamic is playing out with your kid and driving a wedge, though. We are a family of 3 and so we are super careful about trying not to form bonds with 1 parent and kid against the other parent. This tends to happen with my son and I unintentionally because we are very similar, personality-wise, and my husband can easily feel left out if I'm not careful.[/quote]

Oh, like that Kristen Wiig character on SNL? I can picture that!

OP, my husband often tries to bring the conversation back to himself and his “contributions.”  We’ve been together for decades, so I know it stems from his massive insecurities and [b](sometimes desperate) need for external validation[/b], which manifests itself in him basically needing EVERYONE to like him, all the time. Me, I don’t have that issue (was raised with caring parents and loving extended family).

I have no advice. Just sympathy. [/quote]

Sadly I agree. My H is the same way. He finally admitted he’s jealous at me and our children relationship, feeling left out. But it’s his own doing. He’s mean spirited and tries to manipulate into doing what he wants them to do but not taking into consideration what they like to do- and they picked up on it. Hold him at arms length. 
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OP here - yes! You get it!  Thank you! DH intentionally makes me feel like I am losing it (which is different than PPs saying "you're crazy, OP!" - which I fully expected).[/quote]

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