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[quote=Anonymous]OP, you need a therapist. In the middle of all the stress, it’s hard to feel anything but “pissed off.” But your husband is going through a lot too! What you’re feeling is the loss of his presence in your own family, the sadness and scariness of his mom’s situation, resentment that your DH became the sibling with primary “custody” (there’s always one). Those are real and valid emotions but they are not “pissed off” and if you come at your husband with that, with all that he’s going through, that would be a pretty rough approach to a person you love.

The therapist can help you figure out how to sort through and prioritize your emotions for when you talk to your DH about this next phase.

Trust me, many (most?) people have been through at least one elder care situation like this and it is absolutely horrific. It’s very hard to find help, everyone suffers, and it is bleak and relentless and traumatic. But there’s no way out of it. And your kids are learning important lessons about service to others, sacrifice, and planning for end of life. [/quote]

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