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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If you need to nail down the plan, then you need to rent a place on your own. This is not your house. It is mother in laws. She doesn’t want to create tension with the new phew by demanding a certain weekend.

Really the two families should divide the weeks early in the year and stick to that plan. But it doesn’t seem the mother in law wants to do that so there’s nothing you can do. Come up with a different plan for your kids birthday that doesn’t involve using a house for free that someone else owns and you don’t have control of.[/quote]

Well, to be fair, we're not "using a house for free." We're going to the house DH has gone to every summer of his life for 50 years and helps to maintain. We're not mooching :)[/quote]

While it's great your husband helps out, it's still not his house. It's his Mom's house and she doesn't feel like making this birthday thing happen for your daughter.  It's not cool, but that's where she's at with it. If you want to do anything about it, ask you're DH to ask his cousin or bring up the importance of needing to nail down a date with your MIL.

This really isn't your place "to handle".  If the IL's aren't cooperating and you really want to do a beach thing, then rent a house. You can't forcibly 'handle' the use of another person's property.[/quote]

I know. It's not so much the beach location; it's the sentimental value for DD. We wouldn't just rent any house. This one is special for her. We just need to know his dates  :mrgreen: 
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Sorry, I find it hard to believe that a 16 is so invested in the sentimentality of her grandmother’s shared beach house that she is not interested in an alternate vacation option with her friends. Unfortunately the fact that your husband vacationed there as a child and has helped out with maintenance gives you 0 entitlement to the place.[/quote]

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