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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The competition that annoys me the most is when it's related to comparisons of children. That is hands down the quickest way to get me to cut a friend off. Children are off limits. If your insecurities run so deep that you need to compare kids, I will see you to the door with a quickness.[/quote]

Agreed, but sometimes it is subtle. I think that's the problem with a lot of competition among women. It's not the way it gets portrayed in the media -- it's usually not overt or obvious. It's a series of carefully phrased comments that get under your skin over time. And it's hard to say anything about, because if you call them out, they can always say "Oh, I didn't mean it that way." But she did.

I don't think it's all women, and that even women who do this don't do it all the time or with everyone. But I do think some women have a specific way of pissing on their territory that is especially frustrating. I sometimes wish a woman would just come out and say "I don't like you" rather than claiming to love me while always trying to top every story I tell or making little comments about my husband or kids that aren't exactly critical... but aren't supportive either. It's death by paper cut and I hate it.

I feel like I'm getting better at spotting women like this earlier on in a friendship and just choosing not to get close. But when I was younger, I would often not catch on until I was drawn into these weird frenemy relationships and then there would be drama when I tried to extract myself. But I think it's a specific personality that does this kind of thing -- very insecure women who need to assert dominance over other women in order to feel confident in themselves. It's... not great![/quote]

This is thoughtfully written. [/quote]

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