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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I mean....maybe you should still send a birthday card and Christmas card and call her a few times a year. You might feel better doing that.[/quote]

If you have not experienced what OP is experiencing, you have ZERO business making this statement. None.

I am in a similar boat as OP, but I cut contact 20 years ago. For very good reasons. And I struggle with what I'll do -if anything- when he passes. But, I have no patience with the "give him another chance" crowd or the "you'll regret it crowd" or the "but he's your father crowd." You were not in my shoes. You did not live under his roof and all that that meant having to endure.
So, you say nothing. Zero. Zip. Nada.[/quote]

Yep. I'm the poster that hadn't spoken with my mother in 16 years.

About two weeks after her death a letter in her handwriting arrived. It was a one page note explaining how I was such a disappointment and that she thought it funny that she heard my sons "losers". They were 8 and 10 at the time. Think about that.

She had her sister mail it. I have since cut her out as well.[/quote]

DP  WTF!  Only a totally messed up person would do something like that and you are well rid of her.  I'm sorry you didn't have the parent you deserved.  Hugs. [/quote]

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