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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, this is completely cultural. I'm American but my parents immigrated from Asia. Culturally Chinese parents believe they should tell their kids what they are doing wrong--believe, my parents are still do this all the time even though  I am in my 40s with kids of my own, LOL!  It would be the height of rudeness to praise one's own children in front of other people. I hated this as a kid because my mom would criticize me in front of my white  American friends--who thought it was really strange. On the flip side, people from other countries can find Americans weirdly pollyannaish (having an ex whose mom was German I laughed at that observation, she was very blunt about people's shortcomings!) and find Americans falsely--they believe--positive about things, including kids.

Just realize it's a cultural difference, both approaches have their strengths and weaknesses. In a white American suburban setting you are better off saying complimentary things about other people's kids. It's different with true friends, but in polite conversation it is just not done to say anything else. [b]Things can sometimes be different in African-American communities and Latino communities if you are part of that community and there is a relationship among families understanding you are all looking out for each other's kids and sometimes that means being strict with children, even not your own, in a different way, but I leave it to folks from those communities to speak to that.[/b] [/quote]

I’m Latina and you’re describing the way my grandparents were raised. There’re many Latin countries and regions(big city/MA vs small town) though.[/quote]

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