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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP- for anyone reading in the same situation-

I learned from talking to the hotline that there is nothing I can do because she is an adult. I did photograph the bruises. My children, husband, and I have left and are in our house. I contacted the local jurisdiction’s crisis management department and shared my story. I will not call her except for business related things.[/quote]

It sounds like you did not speak with anyone who works with ELDER abuse. You might be better served reaching out to a local social service agency for the elderly.

It sounds like you have some business dealings with your mom/parents. I would start figuring out ways to end that. The reality is that your mom, who is definitely being abused, has been complicit in your father abusing YOU for decades. He uses you two against each other. It’s horrific. That is not how family is supposed to behave. Frankly, I don’t think you should see either of them anymore. I don’t care if your mom wants desperately to see her grandkids - she didn’t and still isn’t protect her actual kid from her abusive husband. I try really hard not to blame victims and understand quite well the dynamics in play in your mom’s situation, but look at what she’s done to you. You’re an adult woman, a married mother, who is certain that NO ONE will believe you or help you when you report being abused. That’s decades of your mom not believing or helping you talking. You don’t owe her a relationship or grandkids. [/quote]

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