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[quote=Anonymous]I know a bunch if couples who have done this and only one where it works. But that relationship disturbs me because while the married couple has a very equal and mutually respectful marriage, at least one of them is extremely manipulative towards their side relationships and actively seeks out relationships in which there is a power differential in their favor. They clearly get off on controlling others and require a lot of ego stroking from not only their spouse but all these other people they are involved with. It’s a weird dynamic. I think maybe this person has some emotional and personality problems that they’ve found a creative solution for. But they have kids and I seriously wonder what the outcome will be. I think this person would do serious damage in a conventional marriage but I also wonder if maybe this is just a different way to guarantee their (unreasonable) demands are met at the expense of those around them.

Anyway, I remain skeptical of this as a functional arrangement. Monogamy has serious flaws, but based on what I’ve seen with others, I’m not convinced that this is a better solution than, say, serial monogamy. I’d rather continue to destigmatize temporary separations/divorce/remarriage/blended families, which in the families I know seems to make people happier in the long run.[/quote]

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