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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]NP here. I agree your SIL is not your business but I have a BIL with a younger second wife who has been whisking him all over the country so she can follow her career aspirations. He likes living that way, I guess, though knowing him, I wouldn't put all of my money on it. They've moved twice for her jobs since he retired several years ago. Well, he's an awesome BIL and I always imagined we'd all be closer as we aged. My kids love him to death but SIL could care less about his family. He's pushing 65, is healthy but not in great health, had a heart scare and now she's taking him away again on one of her career jaunts to another state where he knows absolutely no one. She earns more than his pension brings in, so I think he won't leave her ever for fear of having to live hand to mouth.

I get it, his marriage, his business. I do get this sinking feeling though, one day, that he's going to land in a rehab home or nursing facility 1,000 miles away and we're not going to be able to help care for him. She seems to think she's the only significant person in his life. We don't have a lot of family, and neither do they (she has an adult child in another state she doesn't see much of).

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What if the BIL were a woman in her 60s with health issues who was being carted around by her husband who always insisted on moving? Imagine they weren't even suffering for money-- he's just never happy anywhere. And they were living in a place where she had a great support network of family and long-time friends? Would that seem a little cold if the person being forced to up and leave were the wife? Older people can get lonely easily when they don't have a lot of friends and family around. Unless you're starving, why would you do that to someone, especially if many of the people they're close to don't exactly have another 50 years left? [/quote]

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