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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]That is weird and annoying.

We used to get tons of mail to "The [DH's last name] Family" and I finally just posted a thing on social media reminding people that I had not changed my last name and that the appropriate designation was either "The [my last name]-[his last name] Family" or just "[My full name] & [his full name]".

I heard through the grapevine that a few people were embarrassed when they saw it, to realize they had done something that offended me. At first, I felt bad about that -- I wasn't trying to call people out or make anyone feel bad. But the more I thought about it, the more I realized: there is nothing wrong with letting people know what your name is or what you prefer to be called. And honestly, if in the year 2021, you are just assuming women are taking their husbands' names and not even bothering to do a modicum of legwork to find out (look at their Facebook profile! send a short text saying "oh, I'm sending you mail -- are you going by your name or did you take Larlo's?", etc.) maybe you should be mildly embarrassed. Because that's presumptuous and kind of ignorant.[/quote]

If someone is trying to be nice and send a holiday greeting or other mail, why slap them back in the face? When you're offended by a card and then announce it on social media, you really have to sit down and think that maybe it's you. It's amazing how little grace people have. [/quote]

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