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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As someone with mental health challenges, I urge you to consider that this “caretaking” is ruining your BIL’s chance at any kind of self-actualization or growth. If you don’t have to grow to survive, you don’t grow. Your MIL is not taking care of him. She is choking him to death with “care”. [/quote] OP here. I completely agree. It's hard for me to watch. I would take him in iif absolutely needed but certainly not as a default, and if it were to come to that would certainly not look anything like the current situation where he does no cooking, laundry, cleaning or any other chores. It's really bad. They don't even leave him and his brother home alone overnight. Anyway after some more conversations with DH I don't think it's the expectation. But they certainly aren't doing anything to make him be independent and I hate that it might come to me to put my foot down.[/quote]
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