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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I can understand the taking care of family cultures. I’m part of one.

If I were in this situation, I would make it clear that BIL would be required to seek treatment while living with us. I wouldn’t bother telling MIL that he will be washing his own clothes, etc. It would just cause conflict or anxiety. You just make his chores part of the lifestyle in your house. He will do his clothes because no one else will. Once he’s with you, in your home, MIL can complain if she wants but there’s really nothing she can do and she will know that.

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Question - do you or does anyone else have experience with compelling a person to get treatment in this way? Does this actually work?[/quote]

I don’t have any experience, sorry. My thought is that you and your husband need to have a straight talk with him and let him know that he needs to give it a try in order to live with you. This really needs to come mostly from your husband. I would throw in that you both need to look after the well being of your child and his mental health while living in your home affects your child. Hopefully the MIL will see this side of it to and also encourage him.

Since this is a family takes care of family culture, he will hopefully know that you both are on his side, and as a family member he needs to respect your wishes and at least give it a try. It would be disrespectful to completely refuse. 
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