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[quote=Anonymous]I love my mom but it's stressful to be around her.

She's very emotionally needy.  Quick to take a slight or interpret something as a put down.  
She's very adamant that she's "entitled" to her feelings, so no matter how unreasonable she is, we are supposed to suck it up.
She has a lot of unresolved anger towards my dad whom she divorced like 30 years ago so I still have to either hear about it or, conversely, I am not allowed to bring things up or ask questions about childhood memories because she gets upset.

I have long felt that our relationship is reversed, that she is more the need child.  And I resent being responsible for her happiness.

Now that said if my mom ever needed me to take care of her I would do it in a hearbeat.  I feel that sense of obligation and responsibility.  But at this time, since she's able bodied, her neediness just.... drives me nuts.

Oh and she's an alcoholic.  So she gets completely shit faced at night and thinks that's OK.  Whether she is at my house or hers, kids around or not.

And god forbid she doesn't have her special pillow, a fan blowing, the right temperature.... when my babies were in the car in winter she had a hot flash so she OPENED HER WINDOW.  I said, "um, why not just take off your jacket so you can be more comfortable but the other three people in the car don't freeze?"  HELLO???

I resent that she complains about never seeing her grandkids but she knows I am stuck here for various reasons, but she refuses to move.  I don't expect her to move but I do expect her not to complain....[/quote]

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