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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. Of course I’m pregnant. Ugh. For the people who terminated, did you ever go on to want more kids?
The component I left out of the original post is that my marriage is shaky. My husband has some substance issues that he refuses to acknowledge. He says he is excited, but I’m so scared to be in that vulnerable
Place (pregnancy, post partum, infant hood) with him. 
I’m scared I won’t be able to handle it and that he will go off the deep end, which my current children don’t deserve. [/quote]

Hi OP.  What an update.  I just found out today that I'm pregnant with my 3rd.  We were not TTC but obviously didn't use protection the one time we had sex mid-cycle (and I needed fertility treatments to get pregnant with the first 2...).   I'm not sure how I feel, other than overwhelmed, anxious and confused.   Honestly, I'm contemplating termination, DH would support that if I felt strongly but said he'd be really sad.  And I don't know how I feel.  In your situation, with a DH who is excited but whose long term support you can't count on... well... I'd be even more anxious and more likely to seriously consider termination.  I have two wonderful, healthy kids and we feel so so lucky as it is to have even had them.  I know I might have a long term pang about terminating, but I also know that I'll forever feel lucky for what I have.  But if I let this pregnancy go on much longer the option of terminating feels less approachable.  I don't know what we'll do, but I feel for you in your situation and hope you find peace with whatever you choose.[/quote]

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