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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think it’s true that a lot of kids are experimenting with identity and trying on these labels as a teen is trendy right now.  That said, I think if kids are actually having relationships then it is well beyond trying on a label.  OP is describing her kids as both actually dating someone, not just “coming out” to friends or parents verbally without any non-theoretical attraction.  The Kinsey Scale being what it is, I think a lot of kids these days will feel attraction to someone or will feel like they don’t fit a cis stereotype and will jump on the bandwagon of declaring “Oh, I must be bisexual/nonbinary/whatever!”  Many of those kids grow up a little and start to actually date and interact with people and may realize, “Oh, just because I am artistic and don’t like sports doesn’t mean I am nonbinary.  I can be a cis man and still like what I like.”  Or “Oh, just because I feel attracted to Ruby Rose or Kristen Stewart in theory doesn’t mean that I am bisexual, because in real life the only people I actually want to date are men.”[/quote]

This. As a gen-Xer, this ultra-labeling is the exact opposite of our generation. When I was in HS/college, the trend was to NOT label yourself gay or straight. The thinking was that sexuality is a spectrum and we are all somewhere on the spectrum. I know a lot of people who experimented with same sex and enjoyed it. Most ended up in opposite sex relationships and a few in same sex. These days, kids feel so pressured to label themselves. My son is 14. He has never even been kissed. He has labeled himself bisexual/homoromantic. I had to look that term up. Many of the kids in his friend group are not straight. I don’t know if he is going along with the crowd or if that’s his crowd because he relates to them. [/quote]

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