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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'd talk to your DD and her boyfriend, together.  Acknowledge that you have no control, and that this is just one of the unfortunate outcomes of divorce.  But tell them what you expect from them, and what you would like, and why.[/quote]

Good idea.

DD already knows if she gets pregnant, she WILL have an abortion. I think the boy’s family is anti-abortion, so that would be interesting. It isn’t like they would get a say in anything.[/quote]

you better hope DD agrees. It isn't like you can force her [/quote]

Of course I can.[/quote]

Hopefully, you're exaggerating because you feel frustrated, OP. I am strongly pro-choice and that means CHOICE-even for teens who are too young or for women who are likely to be not great parents. If you did actually force your child to have an abortion you could really mess her up. If you are that oppressive as a parent, I can see why her Dad doesn't want to go along with your rules and your daughter is sneaky with you.[/quote]

Op here. No, you are wrong.

First, as I have stated, I am her dad. I don’t have any idea why people keep assuming I am the mother. It is the mother who is leaving them alone.

Second, a 15 yo doesn’t have a “choice” in this instance. Because her “choice” affects others, namely me and my ex-wife, who would be affected by having to effectively care and support the child.

And for those who asked, no, the boyfriend or his parents would get no say at all in this. They wouldn’t even be part of any discussion, let alone any decisions.

For the record, my ex-wife would support the abortion too.

To the PP who said she never had sex with her boyfriend despite opportunities— good to hear and I like to think I raised my daughter to be smart enough that way. And she may be the same. But I do worry about her impulsive nature, which has long been an issue in other areas.[/quote]

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