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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is so unhealthy for your children to be raised in this dynamic.  If you truly care about your kids, get a divorce.  Show them they don't have to be treated like this.  Show them it's not ok.  Show them how to stand up for themselves. Show them how that type of behavior isn't tolerated.  Don't let them grownup in an abusive home. [/quote]

NP but this is my dynamic too. I'm afraid for my kids to be alone with him so I'm truly stuck as their buffer. I do talk to them about how its not okay and their father needs help but for now that seems like the best I can do. When they're a bit older and can advocate for themselves and do things like call the police when he loses his shit, then maybe I can finally leave him. [/quote]

NNP.  The same fear has kept me married to someone exactly like the OP described.  I am truly afraid of not being there to pick up the pieces (of self esteem and mental health) for our two young kids.  For years, I’ve been the one comforting them after their dad goes ballistic (verbally) for the tiniest thing- dirt tracked in, shoes not put away, etc.    I’ve stayed for as long as I possibly can and now need to get out.  Spouse refuses medication or therapy. Pandemic has made his mental health issues unbearable.  How do I get the court to see how unsafe the environment is for our kids?   He resents having to spend time with them as it is and would only seek custody to spite me.  Even said he will just hire a nanny and maid when I leave.  [/quote]

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