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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think that the "non-call" camp needs to try to realize how this can come off to people, especially an in-law who married into this dynamic. Even unintentionally, it can come off as insulting and disinterested. Try to nudge out of your comfort zone and reach out! It could mean the world to somebody. Same goes with checking in on a friend, making plans etc. Don't sit around waiting for the other person...that other person might become resentful.[/quote]
Why do the noncalling people have to leave their comfort zone? Why can’t the need-to-be-called people stop seeing insult where none is intended? If OP calls MIL, and MIL is perfectly happy to hear from her and they have a nice conversation, it is on OP for feeling insulted.[/quote]

Totally wrong. Sometimes leaving your comfort zone is healthy and sensitive. And this is one of those times. Even if no insult is "intended," it's happening, and it's on the non-callers to realize that NOT HEARING FROM SOMEONE, EVER implies disinterest. It's not a stretch. You're saying you'd rather offend someone than maybe try a little bit to make an effort.[/quote]

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