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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I suppose I am an adult who is also a “jerk” about gifts but let me explain.

1) my birthday is close to Christmas so I often get gifts lumped together or forgotten entirely.

2) I am not hard to buy for, I have very clear hobbies and tastes but people often buy me stupid things like a “Disney poster” in my case it was a stuffed animal as an adult or crap second rate items like a cheap Fitbit that just get sent to goodwill.

I will usually ask for exactly what I want and it still doesn’t work. Please just get me a Starbucks gift card and stop wasting your money. [/quote]

Yeah, you are a jerk. No quotes.

Grow. Up.

The complaint about your birthday being close to Christmas is a reasonable complaint if you are seven. You're a grown adult! Most people don't even buy birthday gifts for adults anymore! I get a birthday gift from my husband, and occasionally (not every year) one from my parents. That's it!

You do not DESERVE gifts. Certainly not of a certain quality. Not to your "clear tastes."

If someone ASKS you what you would like, you should feel free to tell them. Otherwise, shut up.

If someone gives you a gift, you should respond with sincere thanks, as it was kind and generous of them to think of you and spend their hard earned money on you. No one is required to do that! There are plenty of people out there who get ZERO gifts. Maybe spend a little of the energy you spend trying to make sure people buy you good gifts on some gratitude that you have people in your life who care about you enough and have enough means to buy you gifts.

And then, yeah, if it's a stuffed animal or off brand Fitbit you don't like, send it to Goodwill, and be glad that perhaps someone else will get to enjoy it.

Ugh. I'm just thinking about how last year, a delightful coworker mentioned (casually) that since his 14 year old forgot to buy him a Christmas gift (a jerk move, but 14 gonna 14, ya know?) he didn't get a single Christmas present that year. His parents are dead, he's divorced, his siblings stopped exchanging gifts years ago. Zero gifts. And you're complaining that the people buying you gifts aren't paying careful attention to your hobbies. Wow. [/quote]

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