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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]He formed a close friendship with a work colleuge who lives across the country.  You said he wouldn't show you texts but that you "stumbled on the affair." What was it you found that makes you believe he either intended to have sex with her or loved her?
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Her name showed up on his caller ID at 11:30pm, when no one from work should be calling. It was our wedding anniversary 😔 I was sitting next to him. He seemed flustered, so I knew something was not right. I asked him who she was and why she was calling. He admitted that he had been talking/texting with this person about work (initially) as she had lots of advice/insights on his business. But that they had become friends and his interest in her was a symptom of what was missing from our marriage. I looked though his work email and know that they had only met 2 months prior (it was an introductory email). Since then, he had not traveled to her state, so I’m pretty sure it was all emotional and not physical.  But then, I guess she could have traveled to our state?

He denies there were any deep feelings/love and I believe him based on his subsequent actions (cutting off all communication almost immediately). And he denies any plans to have sex with her, but I’ll always wonder that if she had not called that night, would it have gone further and become a long PA/EA? He never showed me the texts, so I have to assume the worst, right?

He still has to travel to her city for work sometimes, which kills me. 
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I'm sorry, but this is not an "affair" in any meaningful sense. It is a very intense friendship, and maybe some attraction, but the word affair gets thrown around too much. It is obvious that there are problems with your marriage beyond this incident, and you (both) should try to work on that, but I don't think you're doing yourself any favors, or frankly being honest, by making this thing seem like some huge betrayal.  [/quote]

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