Reply to how to have a close family and stop this generational problem

Forum Index » Family Relationships

Reply to "how to have a close family and stop this generational problem "

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]See a therapist, make sure you are in a good place emotionally as you raise your kids. I worry about this too but I think the "I would die" language is concerning. Use firm but positive parenting strategies. Focus on having good communication as a family. If anyone in the family is struggling get help.

Some siblings will have conflict no matter what you do, but most families like this (including mine) have trauma that makes it hard for us to be around each other.[/quote]

OP here and that’s what gets me...we DONT have any trauma, thank God. Our parents are still married. We grew up white, middle class. No abuse, drugs. My siblings just hate each other. We don’t spend holidays together. It’s...bizarre.
[/quote]

The emotional styles of parents can, themselves, be traumatizing to kids, and that trauma can affect their emotional styles as adults. And that is to say nothing of behavior that could take place even within the boundaries you have laid out.

What are your parents [i]like[/i]? How did they respond to your emotional needs? How did they respond to your strong feelings--and their own? And same for all of your siblings? TBH the fact that you have not commented on this raises my suspicion that your parents underserved one or all of you in this way.[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics