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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Oh BS it’s not a societal problem. There are multiple threads like this in one day here. Even “enlightened” dads aren’t doing 50% of housework. Social scientists have produced reams of data on that. [/quote]

I agree this is a societal problem. There are men who do an equal amount of (or even more than) housework/childcare to their female partners. But they are rare. They are the exception. The average man, even the more progressive ones, do fewer household chores and less childcare than the average woman. That's just a fact. It cannot be disproven with all the posters rushing in w/ their anecdotes about how their husband does it all while they WOH.

Also, the average mother has to sacrifice more in her career (mommy tracking) than the average father. There are tons of gender inequities that are pervasive in our society.

However, OP's situation sounds pretty extreme. OP, you need to have a serious talk w/ your husband. It might not change anything but you need to at least attempt to get him to see how unequal things are and that you're unhappy with the division of labor.

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From my view, they are not the exception. Then again, I am educated, have a job, make my own money, and have never been afraid to be alone (and I mean never). Not getting married was a fine outcome for me. Not having kids was a fine outcome for me. But when you go in with the attitude I have, which is that you're not going to accept some second-rate life partner, you don't end up with a second-rate life partner.

I maintain that 85% of the husband and dads I know aren't useless. And for the 15% that are, no surprises...you can spot them a mile away.[/quote]

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