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OP here. No "slut" was not the reason of the altercation, the contentious desk was (very immature of my DD to feel entitled to a desk just beacuse she has been using it). There was a back and forth verbal excahges between my DD and the girl for 1 or 2 minutes in between classes, before many students were seated. "slut" was the only curse word used during the altercation - so I would say as a result. I have asked my DD specifically why she used that word and have learned that she did not use the word to mean any thing specific. She admitted she used the wrong word at the time to display her frustration.

Do not want to give the wrong impression, neither my DD and nor this other girl are from minority community.

To respond to other posters, I know for sure that boys are not involved and there is no previous interactions (school has just started 4 weeks back). The other girl is from a different feeder school and their friend circles are different.

I believe the authority acted stricter since my DD was on the wrong side of rules, wrong side of the racial profile (hate to beleive this one, but since I was present in the PTA when displine statistics were discusse) and the parents of the other girl has raised a huge storm over this.

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I understand how sad and upset you are by this situation, OP - you've posted a number of times over the last day or so, which means this situation clearly isn't comfortable for you. It's normal to try to re-frame an uncomfortable event in ways that make us feel less uncomfortable. You're doing that re-framing with your words - specifically, the ones you're using and the way you're putting them together - in making the case that, based on the "other girl's" parents' response - i.e., raising a huge storm - and the "authority's" racial profiling - that's what you're saying, right, when you say your DD is on the "wrong side of the racial profile"? - she's been a victim in this place. Oops, did I type "place"? - sorry, I meant to type "situation." "Place" was the "wrong word," unlike "slut" which, I think reasonable people will agree, doesn't appear in a verbal exchange as just a "wrong word." [/quote]

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