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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]First congrats on the kid, secondly as a dad as well, no dad should be around that long at the beginning trust me on this.  You don't want to be around.  do your part to help by giving her space and time.  [/quote]

Excuse me?

My husband was absolutely critical in those early days, to my mental sanity. He took care of keeping the house running, keeping me fed, etc. He also wanted to spent time with his kid.

You sound really weird. [/quote]

My DH was critical too, I suffered a lot when he had to go back and had LONG days at home with baby a lone.[/quote]

I'm a female with a 50% share partner, but I didn't need dh (I did need him those first few weeks though). I sent him back to work around 6 weeks. Why were you alone with a baby? There are a million moms group activities, stroller strides, baby and mom fitness classes, hospital groups, etc. Maternity leave was the best time in my life. I didn't need dh to be sitting on the couch next to me 24/7. Sure, cook me dinner (he always does though even when he works) and help clean, but those chores aren't needed constantly. [/quote]

This is incredibly tone deaf, both in terms of not recognizing that women have different post-partum recoveries and in ignoring that OP's wife's maternity leave will be during a global pandemic.  "Best time in your life" - okay, good for you.  The fact that you can't see that your experience is not universal is odd.  I skated very close to PPD brought on by breastfeeding troubles on top of seasonal affective disorder, had a baby in the dead of winter during a horrible flu season so I was advised by ped not to take her places indoors and other than short walks didn't enjoy being outdoors with her, and was happy to have another parent there to take her so I could nap or cry in the shower.

And the real point of this thread is that OP [b]wants[/b] to be with his wife and newborn.  He is entitled to that desire and to not be told he's wrong to want that time.  All these comments about how dads are useless or superfluous or secretly hate being around their wives/children are just people dumping their own neuroses in the thread.  [/quote]

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