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[quote=Anonymous]C9BL, back from a field trip to the fire station, and I am feeling the LOVE!  What a high!  I will bask in it while I can--most of my comments produce very different reactions ;)

And it's a little scary to see how much you have figured me out--passionate is the #1 word that comes to mind when people get to know me, yikes.  My mom calls me a "walking hyperbole," and says she should have named me "Anne," after Anne of Green Gables, because I am her clone.

BIGLAW mom, bless your heart, my husband is an attorney, but a gov't one, and I tell you, the challenges you face in your world are mind-boggling to me.  Good for you, as you fulfill all your roles as best you can.  No doubt, I could learn much from your dedication and energy.

Atheist mom, I respect your obvious devotion to your husband and your family, and I assure you, I was not trying to accuse you of coming up short.  Let me explain it this way:  if my faith is true, then God is LOVE, so in your love for your husband and your children, you are "knowing" Him.  Of course, if my faith is false, then I really am crazy...but your love is still love, and love is wonderful.

And I also respect your need to review the data out there.  There is one study that springs to mind (though there have been many), and it is the one my NFP-only OBs keep in their office:

http://www.lifeissues.net/writers/wils/wils_01naturalfamilyplanning1.html

The obvious must be stated:  NFP as a method of family planning is not a happy pill you swallow.  Rather, it is part of a coherent way of life, a certain kind of marriage that must include excellent communication, mutual respect, a willingness to sacrifice, patience, etc.  So causation and correlation are both definitely at play.

And I believe you that NFP does not always "work."  Due to some health conditions, I would almost certainly not be able to utilize NFP effectively to prevent pregnancy, and I know of other couples in a similar way.  Or at least, it would require extraordinary sacrifice.  But for couples who see NFP as their only morally licit option, they embrace the sacrifices, because suffering is redemptive.

And for my DCUM friends of all faiths (or lack thereof):  if there is such a thing as Truth, we are all bumping into it inevitably all the time, whether we know it or not.  Truth just is what is real.  It can't be hoarded by a select few.

I think just about everything that has been mentioned on this thread is true...perhaps with the exception of lots of money, which I think can go both ways in terms of happiness.  But otherwise...absence makes the heart grow fonder...a sense of humor really helps...forgiveness and not holding grudges, very important...long-term perspective...all very wise words.

I wish everyone happiness in their marriages![/quote]

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