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[quote=Anonymous]OP here - sorry for the long post - wanted to provide an update and get a bit more perspective. So it turns out when she lashed out at me about asking for people to where masks (previous pp who was asking- it was a pretty simple straightforward text ‘please everyone wear masks when you see our parent!’), and after she went nuts texting me mean things and I said please take I am I’m not feeling great and I just had a baby, it turns out I was actually seriously ill. About 42 hours after I posted this and this all happened I had to have major emergency surgery. I told my husband and mom going in please just leave her out of it, drama Is the last thing I need. She eventually found out and called me in the hospital, and proceeded to tell me how hard the situation was for her emotionally. I was in so much pain all I could do was deflect and get off the phone. It was absurd.

That being said, she did come by while I was in the hospital to drop off meals and gifts for my kids. I really don’t take that for granted. She had a kind heart but just this extreme inability to not see herself as a victim, and to lash out to me.

This surgery recovery has been the hardest of my life, physically, emotionally, mentally. The COVID stuff And leaving my newborn at home made my hospital stay a nightmare because I was completely all by myself (no visitors allowed), couldn’t sit up to even drink water or jello, had to pump and dump, was on all sorts or drugs (let’s just say it wasn’t pretty). Couldn’t walk for 3 weeks afterwards and have a newborn and 2 other kids. Anyways, 6 weeks post surgery and she calls me about some drama and I just say pretty straightforwardly, I don’t really want to talk about dramatic stuff, I’m having a tough time over here as it is.  Lo and behold she goes ballistic again, and starts saying the same thing, stop complaining, you’re always like that. I just yelled stop (I realize the yelling of stop is not ideal), and hung up.

At this point I was so pissed, I just texted her and said if you can’t keep behaving this way towards me. She responded and called me mentally ill, deranged, etc. So I cut off contact, and it seems to be less stress day to day than dealing with her outbursts, but I miss her and her kids. I’d like to be supportive of a frontline medical worker who is my sister, but just reading this post makes me think that really is an ancillary issue. She just goes crazy on me when she’s stressed.

Where do I go from here? I have this sad feeling that this may be a serious body blow to our relationship. I think family so really important, and she’s usually my best friend, but it feels like an abusive relationship to me. My father was abusive, and I don’t want to keep that in my life.[/quote]

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