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[quote=Anonymous]I was spanked and hit with a belt (and occasionally a shoe horn!) on a fairly regular basis. I was definitely not a bad kid - good grades, never got into trouble at school, never touched drugs etc etc. I wish I remembered what the punishments were for - likely smart mouth, not listening (I was definitely a spirited child). Looking back, my mother was abusive and I was her target child.  Her father was abusive and as hard as she tried to break the cycle, I dont think she could overcome it.

While I don't think a slap is truly abuse, I won't be hitting my children. Every time my kids strike a nerve, I think of the times I was hit and know I dont want them to feel that.

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]When I was growing up I was slapped for having a “smart mouth” enough that I remember flinching automatically on occasion when my parent was just reaching for a glass in the kitchen cabinet or something on a shelf.

I consider that abusive and I still have issues as a result.[/quote]

This was me too.  When I was younger[b] it was spanking and being hit with a belt[/b] or terrible threats. As I got older it was face slapping.  Funny the term "smart mouth" was often used as justification too.  But that meant I disagreed with my mother or questioned a parenting or lifestyle choice.  I was never disrespectful by calling names, using profanities, or screaming.  I was actually a really good and obedient teenager and it makes me sad to think about how I was raised now.  [/quote]

We were also spanked with a belt.  More by our mother.  When that didn't seem to change our behavior she tried using a brush.  It still didn't have the desired effect.  When I got older I found it sad to realize that my mother thought if she just found the right thing to hit us with, that would do the trick.  She never stopped to think that maybe she needed a totally different method of punishment since the one she was using was not giving her the desired result.[/quote][/quote]

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