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[quote=Anonymous]I'll start with this, I was spanked and I did actively spank my kids. Reading the various comments is thought provoking.

Here are some thoughts:
 - Everyone's spanking experience is different.  All kids do not have the same reaction/response to spanking.  Also, all parents do not spank out of anger.
 - Spanking is a tool in your tool belt of being a parents.  If it's helpful, great, use it.  If your parenting style doesn't incorporate it, that's fine too.  There isn't a right or wrong with spanking because all kids are different and all parents are different.
 - Abuse is abuse.  Can spanking be abuse?  Sure.  But is all spanking abuse?  Certainly not.
 - Yes, for those who are saying spanking is a short cut (or insert whatever term you would like to use), yes it is.  Sometimes parents get emotional and angry and it's easier to spank as a reaction than to patiently explain to your child why you are mad.  Parents are people too.  I'm surprised no one has shared a story to hear how their parents apologized to them for spanking out of anger.  That's powerful too.
 - For the folks saying it is hypocritical when parents spank and then saying their children shouldn't hit other children, why are you assuming that children shouldn't hit other children?  In my household (can't speak for others), spanking is a corporal punishment.  There are various levels of punishment and if you've gotten to spanking, then you've leveled up from the lower levels of punishment.  Similarly, if another kid keeps bullying my kid, and my kid has told them to stop multiple times, told the teacher, etc (lower levels of warning) and the bullying continues, they have my permission to hit the other kid.  There is a process that gets you to the point of a physical altercation but you have to respect and follow the process.  
 - Instead of arguing whether spanking is effective or not, or harmful or not, the discussion should be focused on whether your parents loved you unconditionally or not.  I'm guessing for those that have positive experiences with spanking, it is because you remember that your parents loved you unconditionally.  And vice versa.

Thanks to everyone for a healthy discussion on this topic.  
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