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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't know. It seems like you are in the minority in your family.

Why do you get to dictate the terms?

Why do you call is "sickening and disgusting?" That would be true for filth...but disorganization? It just irritates you. That is your personality type. Would they say you need to chill?

You stated early on how you have let YOUR standards down somewhat. Who put you in charge of the standards. Just another way to think about it.[/quote]

this! i think the problem lies in you wanting your husband and two boys to confirm to YOUR standard because you ultimately think it is the "correct" standard ... but it's subjective.  Mess is mess.  So long as it isn't unhealthy, or at a hording level, it might be causing YOU some mental anguish to see the mess, but - as my therapist likes to say - that is a YOU problem, not a THEM problem.

(disclosure - i get it! DH has ADHD and i struggle with the same things, I have been learning to understand and accepting his ADHD and seeing it's positives, rather than trying to make my ADHD husband like me... because he never will be)[/quote]

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