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[quote=Anonymous]Parenting is not meant for people like you.  You need to make a decision.  Do you want to be a control freak perfectionist or do you want to have a good relationship with your kids and make sure they have a happy childhood?   My mom chose control freak and you sound exactly like her.  She claimed that everything she did was for us.  But it wasn't.  My brother and I both suffer from mental health issues because of her.  I suffered from an eating disorder for 20 years because of my mother.

Please, choose being a mother.  My mom has MASSIVE regrets as my brother and I are  adults now.  We have a pretty close relationship but it didn't improve until I was in my 30s.  She's now getting the chance to be a great grandmother and more like how she wished she was with my brother and me.

It's not a good way for anyone to live. It's exhausting for you. Exhausting for your spouse. And exhausting for your kids.  Don't you guys want to be happy?  Don't they deserve not to live in fear that they are going to do something wrong and upset you (and trust me, they do live in fear)?   Don't you want to make sure that you don't cause them anxiety disorders(which you will).?   [/quote]

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