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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]No. I didn't say it was offensive to post a single picture. I don't post pictures of my kids because I don't know if they would want them posted as adults and there is no way to erase things online. When they are older, they can post all they want. I do have pictures of myself, and adult friends and family, posted with their permission. But this is a completely separate issue. The only commonality is that I am perhaps analyzing more deeply the consequences of posting things than you might be (but that may not be true, it could be that you are just reaching different conclusions instead of thoughtlessly going about social media activity). Our risk preferences, personalities, values, cultural norms are very different.

Be careful about jumping to conclusions and creating a narrative that suits you. It tends to be alienating. [/quote]

Do you take everything others say and do as personally as you seem to think everyone takes what you say and do?  I don't understand how you can live by analyzing every single decision you make based on how it will affect other people, because there is no way you will (1) ever know how everyone else feels and (2) be able to please everyone unless you never speak in any way, which includes the voice you use when you purchase a house, buy a car, choose which clothes to wear, etc.  I had a friend comment once on how a Facebook post of mine provided the ray of sunshine she needed to help brighten the tough day she was having (which I knew nothing about at the time).  I don't post often on social media, by the way, and I do tend to find it somewhat toxic and I have removed many people who I no longer desire to follow, but I had no idea that she was experiencing something hard that day.  It's also possible that my post simultaneously upset a different friend for some other reason.  I suppose you could argue that the grief of one person could not possibly be outweighed by the happiness of another, but my point is that there is no way I would have known that either thing would happen.  I happen to have several close friends who have dealt with pregnancy loss, the death of a child, and infertility.  But that doesn't mean that they do not find joy in other people's posts of their children.  So I think for you to make the assumptions that you do (i.e. jumping to conclusions and creating a narrative that suits you), you are actually being really narrow-minded, despite your efforts to sound so much better than everyone who posts on social media.[/quote]

I'm so sorry to hear about your friends dealing with miscarriage, infertility and especially the death of a child. I do try to think deeply about how what I do affects others. I have been lucky so far in that my life has been stable so I don't have many "triggers" but I do know other people do, because, like you, I have some close friends and family members who have dealt with deep pain and they have confided in me that seeing posts about kids is sometimes difficult. Of course, neither they nor I think that this should stop people from sharing about their lives. It's just that the OP asked about a particular situation, and based on my life experience, background and all the biases and values that shape me, my decision would be not to post.

So, in answer to your question, no, I don't take most things personally, but yes, I analyze things as much as I can and try to foresee the consequences of my actions, even if that is not ever fully possible.

And while I have anyone's attention, I think this is worth posting even out of context: https://www.justiceforbigfloyd.com/

Have a good weekend, PP, OP, and all, and stay safe. [/quote]

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