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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]All of the retirement communities have put these measurements in place to protect their vulnerable residents. They have pretty much all suspended social activities, outings, dining room operations, most entertainment.

If your MIL is paying 9K/month for "assisted living" and the only thing that they assist her with is room service then that cost does seem really high.  If she's there because she needs help with medication, dressing, bathing, etc then the 9K makes a bit more sense.  If she's there because it gives you all piece of mind that she is checked on 3 times a day, that makes sense.
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I think that having a vulnerable, elderly person living in your home right now would be especially difficult. I've heard some horror stories about home healthcare workers not showing up or being impossible to find. [/b] That probably isn't something that your SIL factored in when she was speaking of your MIL moving in with her.  Is she willing to put her life on hold, never go on vacation and provide heavy duty physical assistance to your MIL for potentially years to come?

Personally, I don't think that I could ask a member of my family to make a sacrifice like that nor do I think it would necessarily be in the best interests of the parent.  At the same time, I completely understand how paying 2K a month out of your own pocket for your MIL's care (nearly 10K total) when she's really not getting much more than room service would be hard to justify.[/quote]

Caring for someone at home is really challenging in general, and even more so during this pandemic. Most of these people work other jobs, including inside healthcare facilities, so they are potentially bringing the virus with them. And right now there are many home health workers calling out sick.

My friend is caring for his mother at home. She has Alzheimer's and it has been horrible (even absent the pandemic) to coordinate her care and he has had challenges especially recently with people calling out and also with workers who can't deal with someone with dementia and call him to come home from work daily because of various emergencies.

Also, a lot of the home health workers cannot move someone who is larger by themselves; many of them are smaller women who cannot lift someone without help.[/quote]

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