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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have to agree with OP for our own personal situation. Thank goodness the stay at home order specifies travel is allowed for court orders, but if it didn't, I'm 100% sure bio mom would cease exchanges. We have over a month off from school - DH would love the opportunity to get more time with DS instead of every other weekend. Our situation is a bit different where both parents are fully capable of taking care of the child, but bio mom just wants the control. It's not a situation where DH is a jerk or unreliable or unstable. It sucks, "bigly".[/quote]

If your DH is such a great, competent, and involved parent, why did he agree to every other weekend?

I'm always amazed by these 2nd wives who just believe every lie their husband gives them about their ex-partners, and never stop to apply common sense or logic to the story.  [/quote]

If you must know...they were in their very early 20s when they had their child. Bio mom was living with her parents and was a SAHM while DH was living with his parents, working and going to school full time. The court decided that such a young child (child was around 6-9 months old at that time) needed to be primarily with mom. Courts told bio mom and my DH to come back once the child was school aged to revisit the schedule. DH had a pro bono lawyer and looking back now, he didn't really understand how the court system worked.

Oh, and I don't just believe every "lie" my DH tells about his ex. DH and I were really good friends (no, I'm not the OW) well before he even knew his ex, so I watched it all unfold firsthand.

Please come to the realization that there really are some great guys out there that are great fathers and are literally just not given the chance because court systems generally favor mothers and often look at black men as criminals.[/quote]

I hear you. My brother spent ten years fighting for custody. His ex wife had lots of issues and he was by far the more stable, primary parent but the courts still favored her solely due to her sex. It wasn't until the kids were old enough to have a say and they started refusing to go to their mom's and they asked that dad get custody that he got it. His kids were very damaged y those ten years. Their relationship with their mother improved significantly after they were able to live with dad full time and be in a stable home and know that they could come back after visiting mom. [/quote]

PP here. I feel for your brother. I'm glad that the children now have good relationships with both parents, but it sucks that some damage has been done.[/quote]

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