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[quote=Anonymous][quote]AA women here. [b]American white men's communication styles are very different than other cultures.[/b] There is less emphasis put into being direct and aggressive with dating communication. [/quote]

New poster here - I realize this is three months old but it's spot on.

As a white American man with experience on five continents, it is my observation that Americans (men and women both) do not share common, well understood courtship rituals that are prevalent in other societies.  There's a lot of harping in this thread about (presumably) American men who lack social skills and the ability to "read" others.

The problem cuts two ways.  Yes, sometimes American men are clumsy and clueless.  However, American women often engage in signaling behavior that invites an approach which they then shut down.  I haven't figured out whether American women do this purposefully or if they lack the self awareness to realize they're doing it.  I think the latter is very common, particularly in the work place.

Korean, Brazilian and Italian women do not signal men unless they mean it.  I have never got shut down for a coffee date in countries like this, only in the U.S. (and it is very common).

Less anyone think I'm picking on women, I'm not.  How many times have we heard American women say, "Gosh, men are so STUPID!!"  Well, we are.  In America.

Japanese, Mexican and French women do not say this about men.  At least not in the context of basic courtship.  Men in those countries understand and interpret signaling behavior very clearly.  (Harassment belongs in its own thread, not here, that is not courtship behavior).

So you may now commence telling me I'm wrong...  [/quote]

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