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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I breastfed two kids.   One until about 8 months the other until nearly 2.  If my husband made any such suggestion I would have been pissed.   It was not easy.  Support her with whatever she decides to do.  She needs to draw her own conclusion.  [/quote]

This is his child too and he should get say and he's right that it will help her a lot if he can also feed.[/quote]
Nope. He doesn't get to force the baby to stop breastfeeding.

Are they HIS breasts? Perhaps he believes they are. YIKES. The epitome of selfishness. Get a therapist, OP. [/quote]

OP here. I don’t need a therapist. Breast milk benefits are minimal after the first 3 months. I would be fine with her breastfeeding, but my son doesn’t like it. Her rarely breastfeeds, and when she tries to, he will scream and fight. He has never liked nursing. My wife is pumping every 2-3 round the clock to make 30-32 ounces a day. She went from being happy and laid back to stressed, often unhappy, and little time for a thing else. Our son will happily eat from a bottle and take formula. I’m not saying she needs to quit all together, but I feel she needs to pump less. This breastfeeding stuff has made her completely not herself. Studies have shown the most benefit is transferred from actual nursing. I’d be fine if she were happy; but she is often complaining about having to pump. We can’t go anywhere for more than two hours because she has to pump. I feel like she will be happier if she stops pumping or decreases it where she had time to sleep and for other things.

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So basically, OP, you’re the one who is inconvenienced. You probably miss your life before the baby and the wife you had then. Get over it. Your wife is a Mom now which means you take a backseat and your baby’s needs come first. Don’t disguise your selfishness as concern for your wife.[/quote]

OP here. Nope. I love being a dad and actually take care of him more than she does. She suffers from PCOS and nerve pain. I do wish my wife was more present and less moody, but no I don't miss my life before my child. It's also affecting her work too. My child's needs do come first, but pumping comes first to my wife. She rarely spends time with him because she is pumping. She spends most weekends sleeping in because she has been up all night pumping. I do everything - cook dinner, clean up after dinner, put baby to bed, help wash pump parts, make bottles for the next day, etc. She doesn't have much time to do anything but pump.[/quote]

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