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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote] So a couple of things:

Your connection with the AP could be your reflection of what you want on the AP and may not be grounded in reality. Also, your current view of marriage is Yoalso through the lens of affair and so you could be re-writing some of that. In other words, you need some time, distance and self-reflection before taking big steps.[/quote]

100% this.  OP, you are not seeing all sides of your AP.  You aren’t living with the AP, dealing with stress of kids and finances, cleaning the house, etc.  You sound so deep in the fog.  Chances are you like how the AP makes you feel, and that’s it.  Check back into your marriage.  Give it a real chance instead of lining over the unicorns and rainbows in your fantasy world.  You are lucky your spouse is willing to give you another chance.  Use it wisely.  Take advantage of the resources people mentioned.  The reality is that you think your situation is different and unique, but it’s just another nothing-special affair, and your AP is someone who is willing to cheat with a married AP and break up another family (maybe their own, too, if AP is married).  What about that screams quality person or partner?[/quote]

No relationship (as young people) begins with the stress of kids and finances.  Yet we all get married.  No one warns us that the dating fun we have in our 20's isn't real life.  So that argument doesn't fly with me.  Of course I like how the AP made me feel.  Just like how I liked how my husband made me feel when we first started dating.   I need help falling back in love with my spouse.  Not naysayers telling me my relationship with AP was fantasy.  It was no more fantastical than the early years of dating my legitimate husband.  [/quote]

My ap was way more fantastical than the feelings i had for my spouse before we married. He made me feel amazing, in a way i never had before, nor since.  I loved the way he made me feel.

If i could do it again I'd do it again. [/quote]

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