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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This was my dad and stepmom. My stepmom refused to let my dad pay for a more expensive college so I went to a really cheap one. My dad is mild-mannered and there was nothing to be done about it. Ten years later her daughter was applying to all the expensive schools.

It all worked out okay in the end but it was a real struggle to get over that. The real issue for me wasn’t the money, it was feeling like I was less important than I had been before their marriage. Maybe point that out. [/quote]

Could he afford more?  Were there other kids?  How much did your mom pay?  What was your relationship like with your Dad?  I know in our situation 10 years made a huge difference in our income so what we could afford 10 years prior and now are very different.  Be grateful your Dad paid.[/quote]

I'm grateful my dad paid, but I know that it was my stepmom who didn't want to pay for a more expensive school. In fact, she didn't want my dad to pay for anything, she wanted me to take out loans. This all made me feel awful, no matter what. But his income was about 400K at the time, no other kids in college (two younger siblings at home in public school), my relationship was and always has been good, my mom couldn't pay anything because she is ultra poor.

Several years ago as we were together chatting about my half-sister's college applications, my stepmom asked "hey weren't you going to apply to Mount Holyoke too? What happened to that?" Very awkward moment when I reminded her that I didn't apply because she wouldn't let my dad pay for it. [/quote]

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