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[quote=Anonymous][quote] In any case, he's been saying for a while that he wants to spend his life with me, [/quote]
1. is he like this in every major life decision he makes?
2. he says he wants to spend his life with you, but as what? Just BF/GF ?  I'm thinking his timeline is different from yours. As a PP stated, it happens.. two people in a relationship may not be in the same place in their lives. He wants to spend his life with you.. as it is right now? Ask him.. "what does that mean when you say you want to spend your life with me? Does that mean you want to get married or just live together?

I told my DH early on in our relationship (we were both in our 30s) that at some point in my life, I wanted to get married. Maybe not necessarily to him, but eventually, I do want to get married.. that's what I see for myself.  Ask him if he sees himself getting married and having kids (assume you want kids), and if he says yes, then let him know that as a woman you have a tighter timeline than he does, meaning biological, and ask him if he understands that.

I don't believe in putting a specific timeline on life events.  Even though I wanted to get married at some point it wasn't like I wanted to be marred by x age or after y number of years together. Many men don't like to rush into marriage, which I totally understand, but if he already knows that he wants to spend his life with you, and he is in his 30s (so assume he's mature enough), then I don't understand why after two years the relationship has stalled and you are the only one pushing for things to progress.   Say that to him... and see what he says. If he hems and haws and you still don't see much change, then I would seriously think about moving on if you want to eventually get married and have kids. Don't waste your time on a relationship that is going no where.[/quote]

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