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I agree. I have a child in high school and a child in elementary and problems don't have the same repercussions. However, if you ignore an issue in elementary, it might snowball into a challenging problem by the time the kid is in high school, and that's sometimes what you read about on the teen board...

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Tell me what you mean by this!! I’m the parent of two elementary schoolers and I don’t want to screw things up. Did you or someone you know ignore issues in elementary school that made for more difficult teen years? [/quote]

PP you replied to. I have experience with ADHD and associated disorders, specifically. My own child's ADHD was too severe to be ignored in elementary, so we dealt with it, but two of my friends ignored their children's milder attention issues and it is causing problems years later. One friend has realized she needs to have her child evaluated to ask for school support and seek out therapy and possibly meds, because her child is now depressed and convinced she is stupid, and the other friend is unfortunately still putting her head in the sand, which is really sad because I see how her child is struggling in high school and her symptoms as just so textbook...

In the teen forum, you see this a lot. Parents who post saying "my child always had X, Y, Z tendencies when they were younger, and now at 14 it's progressed to lying, sneaking out of the house to drink and smoke, etc". You can't ignore the X, Y, Z tendencies. You have to build the strongest trusting relationship you can possibly create with your children while they still think you're the cat's meow, so that they continue to share their life with you and you can find ways to help them before it comes to self-medicating with drugs, or whatever else they're going to try. 
In part, I feel it comes from parents' hectic work schedule, and the kids' hectic after-school schedule. There's just no more time to observe and enjoy each other as a family, and some things fall through the cracks, parents think "I'll address that weird red flag when I have the time".  Except they don't find the time until there's a real problem.

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This is one of the best posts I’ve seen in a while. I see this a LOT. Teen parents feeling ambushed by things that were actually there for a long time. I also agree with your assessment of how it often happens. [/quote]

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