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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Straight up what some of y’all need to realize is that the changes you wanna see happen ain’t gonna happen overnight.  Dude ain’t gonna go from routinely saying, “Oh that’s not true” and shifting the conversation elsewhere to all the sudden saying, “I understand how you feel honey” and being all Super Empathetic Man in 24hours.  Takes time.  Have some patience after you bring this shit to dudes attention.[/quote]

OP here. I agree with this, and I actually said this last night during our most recent conversation. I don't expect any magic. I don't expect an instant change. But at the very least, [b]I just want him to understand/acknowledge that there is a problem. In his mind, he's not wrong and I'm the problem.[/b] To him, I need to stop bringing things up and I need not worry about my emotional needs (because I'm just dramatic and those needs don't exist). So how can you even make a start when we can't even agree that there's a problem?[/quote]

He's right. You are the problem. You want your feelings validated. That's your problem, and you're trying to make it his.[/quote]
DP. In a marriage, that is a shared problem.[/quote]

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