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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I never said I didn’t know if I wanted to stay together;[b] I very much want him in my life and we have discussed a future together. [/b]

But when it comes to moving in together... I don’t want to make such a big change out of convenience but also don’t want to signal that I’m not sympathetic to his awful commute. I guess I’m seeing a problem, something that is clearly adding stress to my boyfriend’s life (the commute), and trying to come up with possible solutions. [/quote]

What did he say in your discussions of a future together?  How did he envision the future given no kids and you said you are no hurry to be remarried?  If in discussions of the future he has mentioned marriage, I would wait until he proposes.  If in discussions of the future he mentioned living together long-term and I wanted the same, I would wait until we discussed it in more detail.  You shouldn’t have him move in for his convenience.  It should be an agreed upon next step in the relationship with some discussions like when, hoe you will handle finances and bills,  will you save to get a combined bigger place and of course of if there are now ties keeping a job in that location.  Say you are fine with a long term relationship without marriage, if you are living together and you get the best job opportunity elsewhere, what happens?[/quote]

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