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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Very interesting responses. I see some repeated that I am going to try:

Accept and appreciate your spouse.
Respect and support your spouse.
Listen to and acknowledge your spouse. 
If you feel like your spouse isn’t doing this for you, calmly tell them your concerns.[/quote]

For those that have successfully done #1 - how were you able to do it?  Every day I give myself a pep talk that I will be positive and within 20min I find myself angry that dh is fiddling on his phone in the corner while I’m trying to juggle two toddlers, get breakfast, pack for daycare etc etc etc.  [/quote]

What you are describing in not #1. You are describing a different scenario - how to work well together while parenting.

You need to give him explicit directions, calmly, sweetly, with a smile on your face..instead of getting angry or stewing  Men are not malicious. They are just very, very, very, very oblivious. And yes, they have no idea that they should chip in and do the work because[u] they are very oblivious.[/u]

"Honey, can you put on Larlo's shoes, while I brush Larla's hair?"  And to your kids you need to turn and say, "Larlo, daddy is going to put on your shoes, and lets see if you can help getting it done by the time mommy finishes counting to 60. Ready? Set? Go...."

When he does what you ask, you say - "Wow, great job both of you! Honey, You make it look easy. Can you do x now so that I can finish doing y, so that we can bundle them up in the car and be on our way!"

And when you are on your way to wherever you are going...reach out, touch his arm and say, "We make such a great parenting team."

Ignore the bad behavior, give explicit instructions with a smile on your face, reward the good behavior.

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