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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Are grandma and dad upset? Or just you, the stepmom?

I ask because in my family the gifts flow down, not up. It would be weird if we brought gifts for grandparents.[/quote]

This! Our parents and grandparents (all deceased now) don’t want or expect anything. We often bring consumable items, gift cards to a nice restaurant (and I am not even sure they use those!), framed photos of the kids, or go in with siblings on something. But they have everything they need and will say so themselves. It is more about spending time together and being thought of- that is all they really want. They would be thrilled to have their son/grandson at Christmas (only thing they want) and as a bonus to bring his girlfriend.

My MIL mentioned once that half of FILs closet is full of never used gifts etc and he takes many others straight to the homeless shelter etc. He has everything he needs and is a simple, humble, religious man. He doesn’t want material things- he just wants to spend time with family.

I don’t get you OP. [/quote]
This is how it works in our family, too. I imagine I will spoil my kids rotten even when they are mid 20s and expect nothing in return. It will bring me great joy and all I want is to have them home. Gift giving isn’t supposed to be a transaction. [/quote]

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