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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. You’re all being much  kinder than I’d hoped. I really really want to move past this because it’s done. Its more painful to feel this way than to just let it go so why can’t I? I’m so angry with myself. It’s child’s choice, child’s life. I should just be happy. 
Child got into a great school by any measure (well in the top 10) but I just had that dream (I know I know-I want to slap myself too). Child worked so incredibly hard with the same dream in mind. Maxed out at the number of APs allowed at smallish  private school and got straight As plus 2 800s and 3 780s on AP Subject tests, one of which child self studied for, 1580 SAT and 36 ACTLeadership positions, ECs, charity work blah blah. Varsity athlete but not enough for recruiting. 
Child initially was gung ho  about a particular Ivy for which they had well above average grades according to the school’s naviance reports  ( I know-no guarantees). Then senior year came and child suddenly  changed their mind and no amount of gentle persuading would budge them. “Why would I risk apply to a school with a 10 % acceptance rate (not nationally but per Naviance for their school) when I could apply to an excellent one with much higher acceptance  rated?”

What’s making it harder still is that quite a few of child’s classmates who did take the risk got into Ivies- some top Ivies There were of course the off-the-charts bright kids who would get in anywhere +/- legacy and the athletes but a few  “surprises” too. Smart but not overly, no hooks that we know off. That made harder. I just know child stood a good change based on the outcomes so far. I also know that deep down when child heard of the surprises they wondered if they should have thrown their hat in too. Child talked about possibly transferring after first year. 
Plus it’s more than bragging rights. I really believe it would have been a wonderful culmination of all child’s hard work and sleepless nights. I feel sad for them. 
Anyway all that by way of background. I just need to move one. I even find myself crying in secret sometimes. Foolish foolish foolish woman! Get over yourself already!

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Wow, I responded previously but this post really illustrates how privileged and blessed you and your family this is a hardship for you to get over. I really don't mean that to be snarky. But crying over something so inconsequential when your kid continue to has every opportunity to be successful says more about your lack of perspective than anything.[/quote]

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