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[quote=Anonymous]If you think not giving a gift is going to impact your child’s behavior, you’re saying you think that he has control of his actions and is willfully disobeying you. If that’s the case, learn some child psychology (parenting classes help) and figure out how to motivate your child to do better (usually rewarding is better than punishing).

If you’re doing this as a last ditch effort because nothing you’ve tried has worked, and you think this won’t work either because your kid can’t control himself and you’re helpless to properly guide him, get him the help you all need (parenting classes and advice or referral to a specialist from your pediatrician).

Don’t pass the buck to Santa. That’s worse than a mom saying, “just wait until your father gets home and sees what you’ve done.” Discipline should be private, swift and relevant to the situation so the child can learn how to behave better. Passive aggressiveness from a beloved holiday icon is going to teach lessons you don’t want your kid to learn, like love and family traditions are conditional and only for the good kids, adults can’t be trusted (especially if a mall Santa already said he’d bring a gift), and that he can’t win so why try. Later when he learns it wasn’t some fat dude from the North Pole who jilted him, and it was really his parents, he’ll transfer those feelings to you and probably have some issues to work through, especially considering he’s a little out of control already. If he has anxiety (which presents with so many learning and behavioral disorders), I can see being publicly rejected by Santa/parents making that worse.

I can’t think of anyone I know who wouldn’t have lasting affects from their parents pulling crap like that, the least of which would be putting a damper on gift giving and/or the winter holiday season. 
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