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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think this is a bad argument because it makes both sides get upset. And everyone has different experiences and levels of work. Even the last week with my terminal cancer parent dying wasn’t the same as the first week with a newborn waking hourly. I also had a lot more help with my parent and more visitors. With my newborns it was just my dh (and newborns aren’t all easy, I had one very difficult one and an easy one). One parent got his cancer diagnosis and died 3 weeks later. It was a messy, brutal 3 weeks and he died at home. But there was hospice help and morphine. The other parent has had dementia for 8 years. No way should a job accommodate that. Just like with a baby/child, you need care during the day that allows you to go to work.

I think work should allow you 12 weeks (mine was unpaid) maternity leave and then sick leave to deal with parents’ appointments. I work a 9 hour day and have a day off every other week that’s back to back appointments. That allows me to help but also allows me to be a good employee. [/quote]

I think you are being unreasonable.  You could have taken 6-8 weeks maternity leave and then still had FLMA or leave for parents appointments.  If you are taking off 12 week and then a day or two every week, you are not being a good employee.  Your personal life is interfering with work.

You aren't understanding the reality this poster is saying.  We had a dementia situation and it lasted 5 years.  The very end lasted 3 weeks and it was horrible.  Its very different than what you are saying.  You have no concept of this type of care.[/quote]

FMLA is unpaid leave, right?  How could parents with young children afford to take FMLA to care for their parents.  Yes, they might be able to return to their job and not get fired for missing work....but how are they going to support their family?  Maybe I don't understand FMLA very well.[/quote]

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